Note to Self #2: Do not be a coward.

Note to Self #2: Do not be a coward.

Calling someone a coward is a really strong accusation. By "coward" I don't mean like not wanting to go on a roller coaster because you are scared of heights and falling (Confession : that would be me >.<). By "coward" I mean not speaking up and/or owning up just because you want to avoid the consequences.

At the point of heat, not saying anything might seem like a good thing. But literally not answering anything on the topic of argument AT ALL, is just plain escaping responsibility. It does not mean that by replying, you are admitting defeat. The person just needs answers, or they need to hear your side of the story before being able to calm down.

It just angers me when I get angry at you, demanding for an answer; it shows that I genuinely like you enough for me to me to even get angry at you at all. By not responding, it makes things even worse because I do not get any sort of answer from you, it angers me even more.

Shirking responsibility is the worst thing anyone can do. I was taught from young to always be a responsible person, I absolutely hate it when someone shirks responsibility. How do you expect someone to ever trust you with anything if you never want to own up to anything? Taking responsibility helps you to realise your own mistakes, so you can learn from them and better yourself as a person. Not only on the bad parts of life, by taking responsibility for the good parts of life, you also learn more on the good parts of yourself that you never knew. Others will learn to take you more seriously with everything you do. 

I have also been a coward at times, but I am also slowly learning more about myself everyday by learning to own up to my mistakes.

Lesson to learn today: Be responsible for everything that you do, learn from your achievements and mistakes.

XOXO 

Rui Ting

Note to Self #1 : Do not be a selfish hypocrite.

Note to Self #1 : Do not be a selfish hypocrite.

Hi everyone, I decided that I'm going to start this series on my blog called "Note to Self", wherever I come across things that I dislike about other people or myself, I can write it down to vent my frustrations, and also to put a reminder out there for myself to look back and remind myself not to be someone that I hate.

Ok, so as the title suggests, today's Note to Self is going to be on the topic of :

"Do not be a selfish hypocrite". 

I'll admit, I've been a hypocrite to others many more times than I remember. However, it will never be for reasons that might actually hurt someone's feelings (at least from my point of view it doesn't). If I have ever hurt anyone unintentionally with my words, I apologise. I'm the type of person that expects the same of everyone as I do myself; hence I would not expect them to feel hurt if I do not myself. Even if I do intentionally want that person to get hurt, I expect them to forget about it really quickly, as I do myself.

More often than not, I get thrown one side of an argument at me one day, only to come back the next day and have the other side of the argument thrown back at me just because the other party wanted things to go their way. For example, I was told not to see the worst in people, which made total sense at the time, so I accepted the comment as it was handed to me. The next day however, that statement was turned on me; I became the worst person in the eyes of another. Why do that?? It is not the first time I've been stuck in situations like this, only to be told off that I am just being picky and ... just being difficult. I'm not being picky if it happens on a regular basis. The more I look st it, the more it just seems like pure manipulation.

I really do not want to turn into that person that does these types of things. I want to achieve something because I earned it with my own abilities, using the right methods, and not stoop down to manipulation to get what I want. 

Lesson to learn today: Use the right ways to get what you want. 

XOXO

Rui Ting